Credit to Mitch, Shahram Heshmat Ph.D,
When was the last time, you were this free. When was the last time, you had enough time to do whatever you always wanted and when was the last time, you spent this much time at home. This is ”the’ time which we have always wished for. Remember those long working hours at work? Remember those traffic jams and do you remember ringing your friend and saying that I wish i could get one more day in a week, there is lot to catch up. This is that time which we were looking for. And now when it is here, we are waiting for things to get back to normal. We aint content. Neither we were content when we were busy nor we are now, when we have all the free time in the world. Then what it is, that we are actually looking for? What it is, which can make us content, convinced and Grateful. The idea of a meaningful life is one that provides personal satisfaction, a sense of accomplishment, and some degree of happiness. But most importantly it is about understanding Balance.
Abundance of anything creates imbalance but we have tricked our mind that abundance of money or abundance of time or abundance of love is the key to be Happy and successful. Whenever balance is affected, we see different perception of our lives. That is why we are not able to handle abundance of free time now and we were not able to handle abundance of busy work days before.
We crave for more time. However, when we have free time, we don’t know what to do with it. Nothing seems exciting enough to deserve our valuable time. We end up doing nothing and get bored. But why do we get bored at the first place, when technically we must not. You will know. Before that lets focus on some cool facts about Boredom and how you can handle it.
The Role of Culture
In many ways, boredom is a modern luxury (Spacks, 1996). Boredom was literally nonexistent until the late 18th century. It came into being as the Enlightenment was giving way to the Industrial Revolution. Early in human history, when our ancestors had to spend most of their days securing food and shelter, boredom wasn’t an option.
Boredom also has its benefits. It is important to see boredom as a “call to action” (Svendsen, 1999). Nietzsche suggested that men of rare sensibility value boredom as an impetus to achievement. Boredom can be a catalyst for action. It can provide an opportunity for thought and reflection. It can also be a sign that a task is a waste of time—and thus not worth continuing.
We have a hard time having fun in our own company.
That’s why people embrace busyness — you don’t realize you are bored when you are running from one place to another. Being busy is a tricky form of entertainment — we don’t feel the boredom, but it isn’t fun either. That’s the danger of not facing our boredom: it can cause more damage if it gets out of our mind.
You are in charge.
People with higher self-awareness and self-control are less prone to feeling bored. Some individuals are more likely to be bored than others.
People with a strong need for novelty, excitement, and variety are at risk of boredom. These sensation seekers (e.g., skydivers) are likely to find that the world moves too slowly. The need for external stimulation may explain why extroverts tend to be particularly prone to boredom. Novelty seeking and risk-taking is the way that these people self-medicate to cure their boredom.
Meditation is a powerful tool to let your repetitive thought pattern free. Once you stop resisting boredom, it’s no longer threatening. As Sakyong Mipham says: “Boredom is no longer needy; it’s spacious, comfortable, and soothing.
You need a pause. Enjoy it.
Silence is the think tank of the soul. Boredom, like silence, is not just the absence of noise — it invites the presence of focus. Noise keeps you busy. Remove distractions and start listening. What is boredom trying to tell you?
Boredom feeds creativity.
Your brain likes to escape from the feeling of boredom; instead of providing external stimulation, let it feed on internal elements. Mind-wandering invites creativity; rather than trying to focus on external stimuli, let it find its way shifting from one idea to another.
Avoid technology when you feel bored.
Entertainment snacks will make you crave for more; rather than controlling your boredom, your need for distraction will never be satisfied. Technology is anything but a boredom cure.
Over-stimulation is a contributor. An unending number of choices for entertainment can make them all seem lackluster and boring.
After a while, we find ourselves sitting on our couch, aimlessly scrolling through social media or trying to find the next thing to binge watch instead of getting out and engaging with life. Much of the internet experience is based around instant gratification. As a result, the average attention span is shortening.
This makes it harder to engage in more difficult activities that may provide meaning, excitement, or real entertainment. It takes time to master any endeavor.
We have to be patient enough to build and pursue the things we want, whether that’s a career, a family, or a more meaningful life.
Help a lonely friend become happy.
Loneliness can happen to anyone, you might have a lonely friend or acquaintances and considering the fact that you already felt loneliness, you would be sympathetic to someone who is feeling that way too. Sometimes, the best way to get rid of loneliness is to lend a helping hand to people who are in the same boat as you. It is a great feeling to extend that blessing to people who really need it. Most of the time, due to the circumstances we encounter it leads us to loneliness and boredom. However, it is still our minds and thoughts that create loneliness and boredom, we may find ourselves in that situation but it’s easy for our thoughts to drift that away.
Recover the joy in performing mundane tasks.
We are so comfortable that our mind rejects doing chores. They feel boring, definitely not for us. Recovering the pleasure of performing small duties builds a sense of pride and achievement. Train your mind to realize that boredom is not about what you do, but how you do it. Boredom helps you rethink your relationship with the world.
Monotony lies within your mind. Break the montony.
Take this quote from Paulo Coelho for instance: One day you will wake up and there won’t be any more time to do the things you’ve always wanted. Do it now.